Woke up from a really crazy dream, left me spooked in the head and thinking since 8.37am.
Fatigue must be messing with me.
The past 2 days have been dead exhausting.
Volunteered at Chingay and rushing from school to Promenade is no small joke.
nor is being awake from 6am-1am funny either.
Today's the actual day though, so yay..
Anyway, woke up in the morning feeling cheesed.
and decided to google stuff and convinced myself that i can easily google Othello later as lit research.
hah.
Burning question,
you know how people around us always say "i love you" to each other?
got me kinda thinking, where's the line between infatuation and love? :o
(To all of you adults that are smirking behind your screen, im 17 and yes i do have questions i cant ask you all :O!)
INFATUATION
is an emotion. Real love is deeper than just emotion. Emotions can’t always be trusted. They will change as circumstances around you change. (For example, when your sick, tired, stressed, fearful, etc.) You are so obsessed with someone you fail to see any faults.
is love at first sight–fireworks!–bells! You can be infatuated with someone you have never met, like a movie star, or someone you notice at school. Real love takes time. It’s a growing experience based on shared interest, beliefs, and attitudes. A fantasy that is created in one’s mind based on emotion of how things would be if they were paired with another (often specific) person.
may lead to love over time, but it is not love. Infatuation only takes.Love gives. Infatuation wants to know “What in this for me?” Love says, “What can I do for you? How can I make you a success? How can I meet your needs?”.
is insecure. Infatuation gets jealous and unreasonable. Love doesn’t. Infatuation fades with time, separation, or change. Love won’t. You’ve heard it said that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Well, that is only true with real love. Being apart will kill infatuation over time, because it must take to survive. When someone else comes along who has more to give, infatuation will switch its attention from an old flame to a new one.
is fueled by passion and lust. Love runs on respect. Example David said he loved Kay and wanted to marry her when they graduated from college. Just before their senior year, Kay’s face was scarred in an automobile accident. By Christmas, David broke off the engagement because he said he no longer loved Kay. What David felt wasn’t real love that says, I love you unconditionally, no matter what. It was infatuation that said I cared because you were…pretty (or sexy, rich, popular, etc.)
Which knocked some sense into me that (apologies to all that i've ever said this to aside from close friends and relatives..), i've never actually loved someone before.
And it's all but plain infatuation.
BTW, i think that the whole "Statistics shows that any relationship past 4 months is Love" is BULLs.
Seriously.
Something as mythical and sacred as Love should not be deemed by any time frame.
It could take merely a month, or it could take a lifetime and you still dont love him or her :O
Least that's what i think.
There we go, my ramble is done and i should go back to Breakfast and googling Othello.
